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Traditional Chinese Marriage Customs

Traditional Chinese Marriage Customs


In feudal society marriage depended on ones parents" orders and a match-maker"s selection. Men were honored more than women in the society, so the actual process of marriage was as follows:


Match-making: if a man fell in love with a girl, the man"s family would ask the matchmaker to help propose with some gifts. Originally, the gift was a live wild goose, which was the symbol of living up to the pledge between each other, because the geese were always punctual to fly to the south in autumn and move back north in spring. Then white geese (symbolizing spotless virtue), emulsion paint (jiaoqi in Chinese, symbolizing harmony and affection) and silk trees (hehuan in Chinese, symbolizing happiness) were also used.


Name Knowing: inquiring about the girl"s name and birthday, then asking the fortuneteller to match if the marriage would be happy.


Engagement: if the match was auspicious, the man"s family would ask the matchmaker to arrange the preliminaries for the marriage with some gifts and a formal letter called the "Appointment Book", after which the two families would exchange the girl"s and the man"s birthday records as the evidence of the engagement. Subsequently, the man"s family would make preparation for the marriage. The girl"s family would also assemble for the dowry such as bedding, chests, jewelry, clothing, silk & satin, plates, and some rich family even used house and store as the dowry.


Betrothal Gift Presenting: when everything was almost ready for the marriage, the man"s family would present gift-money and various gifts to the girl"s family. The variety and quantity of the gifts and gift-money were all clearly listed in a "Gift Book" document.


Auspicious Day Choosing: the man"s family would then asked the fortuneteller to choose an auspicious day according to the date of the couple"s births.


A few days before the wedding, the girl"s family would send the dowry to the man"s family. About the same time a privileged elder woman would make the bed for the new couple, scattering all kinds of sweets and fruits on the new bed such as red dates, longans, litchi, red and green beans. No one was permitted to enter the bridal chamber or touch the new bed until the night of the wedding.


Meeting the Bride: finally the peak of the marriage came 芒鈧€?the wedding day, when the bride would wear auspicious and festive red clothes, and the bridegroom would wear a special wedding suit accompanied by a procession to meet his bride. Before leaving her former home the bride would kowtow to her parents to acknowledge their love and care from childhood. The bridegroom would also bow out of respect. At the departure of the carriage or the bridal sedan chair, the bride"s parents would scatter a bowl of water and a bowl of rice. This represented that their daughter was leaving and would never be back 芒鈧€?like scattered water and wishing her enough food in future. Upon leaving, the bride would throw her fan out the window of the carriage or sedan chair to throw away her bad temper.


Wedding: when arriving at the bridegroom"s home, the bride would step over a brazier to burn out inauspicious things. Then the couple would kowtow to the bridegroom"s parents, the heaven and earth, and to each other. After that the bride would be sent to the bridal chamber, and the wedding came to its peak 芒鈧€?the feast. After the feast , came the last part of the marriage. Most relatives and friends would leave one after another, but some friends and relatives of the same generation would crowd in the bridal chamber, playing all kinds of games, giving performances and so on, to add more joy to the wedding.

 

 
   
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